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Fox Monuments, as a provider of Jewish headstones, understands the significance of family to people of the Jewish faith. We also deeply respect the practice of paying tribute to and commemorating deceased loved ones. Jewish traditions are critical to the stages of mourning and burial.

In the Jewish faith, these cultural traditions extend well beyond the time of death. Yahrzeit candles are central to this tradition, with great significance to the grieving process.

When is the Appropriate Time to Light Yahrzeit Candles?

Yahrzeit candles are lit at sundown on the eve of the Yahrzeit, or the anniversary of a loved one’s death. They’re also lit at sundown on religious holidays, such as Yom Kippur, Sukkoth, Passover and Shavuot.

These candles should burn naturally until they cannot anymore, rather than being extinguished. It’s acceptable to light a Yahrzeit candle on the day of the anniversary if you forget the night before.

It is also customary to burn a Yahrzeit candle throughout the Shiva.

Who Should Light The Candles?

In a similar vein to the burial and installation of a Jewish headstone, Yahrzeit candles are generally reserved for immediate family members. This includes spouses, parents and children. Each family member should light a candle, unless they live in the same household. They should do this for each family member who has passed on.

 

Are There any Accompanying Customs?

There is no specific prayer the Jewish faith requires during a Yahrzeit. However, saying the Mourner’s Kaddish is a common tradition in some families.

There are many celebrated readings that mourners recite at Jewish memorials. It’s important to remember the life and legacy of those you lost when selecting a poem or text to read during the service. Whichever piece (or pieces) best reflects your loved one is the optimal one to read aloud.

It is customary to honor the memory of the deceased during this time. Reflection on the positive memories of your loved ones, and the happy times you shared, is a fitting tribute for their life. Sharing the positive stories of your loved ones will keep their memory alive forever.

 

Conclusion

At Fox Monuments, our primary goal has always been to provide as much comfort and support to mourning families as we can. We make every effort to remain respectful to and considerate of the grieving process as you order your Jewish headstone.

We take great pride in helping families through difficult times, and with minimal stress. Contact us to learn more about how we can craft a beautiful monument for your loved one.

When a friend, co-worker, neighbor, or family member suffers a loss, our instinct is to help. It is a natural response—an impulse to comfort and provide support in any way we can. Our hearts ache for them, and we want to ease their burden, giving them strength and support during this difficult time. Often, this instinct leads us to send a gift or gesture of sympathy, such as food, flowers, or other tokens of care.

However, when supporting a family of Jewish faith, it is important to approach the situation with knowledge of their customs and traditions. Judaism is a deeply rooted, globally-practiced religion, with detailed observances surrounding death, mourning, and memorials. What might be considered thoughtful in one culture can unintentionally conflict with Jewish mourning practices.

This post will guide you through the types of gifts and gestures that are appropriate—and inappropriate—when expressing sympathy to a Jewish family. By understanding the customs of Jewish mourning, you can provide meaningful support without inadvertently causing discomfort or offense.

Understanding Jewish Mourning Practices

Before discussing gifts, it is important to understand the structure of Jewish mourning. Judaism approaches death with dignity, ritual, and communal support. Mourning practices are designed to honor the deceased, comfort the bereaved, and gradually help the family reintegrate into daily life while maintaining respect for the memory of the loved one.

Some key Jewish mourning practices include:

• Shiva: The first week after burial, where family members sit at home and receive visitors offering condolences. Shiva provides an opportunity for communal support and reflection.
• Shloshim: The first thirty days after the burial. Mourning is somewhat less intense, but still observed with specific customs.
• Yahrzeit: The annual anniversary of a loved one’s passing, often marked by lighting a candle and reciting prayers.
• Unveiling Ceremony: A formal dedication of the headstone, typically held months after the burial.

Understanding these observances is critical, as certain gestures that are standard in other cultures—such as sending flowers—can conflict with Jewish traditions.

Why Flowers Are Not Appropriate

In many cultures, sending flowers is a common gesture of sympathy. However, in Jewish tradition, flowers generally do not play a role in mourning or funeral customs. There are several reasons for this:

• Focus on permanence: Judaism emphasizes lasting remembrance, symbolized by placing stones on graves rather than temporary items like flowers. A stone signifies enduring memory, continuity, and stability.
• Non-disruption of mourning: Flowers are often viewed as bright, celebratory, and decorative—qualities that can feel incongruous with the solemnity of mourning. Receiving flowers at a Jewish home during Shiva may unintentionally distract from the grieving process.
• Practicality: Families sitting Shiva are often occupied with hosting visitors, reciting prayers, and observing rituals. Flowers require care and placement, which may add an unintended burden.

In fact, many Jewish funeral etiquette sources strongly advise against flowers at funerals, graves, or Shiva visits. Sending flowers, though well-intentioned, may be perceived as insensitive or out of touch with Jewish mourning traditions.

Alternative Ways to Support a Jewish Family in Mourning

If flowers are not appropriate, what can you do to express sympathy in a way that honors Jewish customs? Fortunately, there are thoughtful alternatives that provide real comfort and assistance to grieving families:

1. Sending Food or Care Packages

Food is one of the most meaningful ways to support a family during Shiva. Preparing or sending meals ensures that mourners do not have to worry about daily sustenance while focusing on prayers, reflection, and receiving visitors.

Common Shiva care packages include:

• Pastries, breads, and baked goods
• Fresh fruit and nuts
• Coffee, tea, or other beverages
• Candies, chocolates, or other small treats
• Prepared meals such as meat, fish, or vegetarian platters
• Salads, sides, and condiments

Families often appreciate when meals are kosher, but even non-kosher foods can be useful depending on the household. When in doubt, ask the funeral home or family if there are dietary restrictions.

For an extra special gesture, some friends and neighbors arrange full catering or meal delivery services for the family during Shiva. This approach can be especially helpful for larger gatherings or when family members live far away and are unable to help in person.

2. Donations in Memory of the Deceased

Charitable giving, known as Tzedakah, is a core value in Judaism. Making a donation in memory of the deceased is both respectful and meaningful. Common types of donations include:

• Contributions to synagogues, schools, or religious organizations
• Support for social service programs such as hospitals, shelters, or food banks
• Scholarships or educational funds in the deceased’s name

When making a donation, it is customary to inform the family of the contribution, either through a card or a personal message. This shows that you have honored their loved one’s memory in a tangible and enduring way.

3. Offering Practical Help

In addition to gifts and care packages, practical assistance can be invaluable. Offering to help with tasks such as grocery shopping, cleaning, or childcare allows the family to focus on mourning. Even simple gestures, like running errands or helping with synagogue arrangements, can make a profound difference during the grieving process.

Respecting Shiva Visits

Shiva is the most intensive period of mourning and involves a defined set of rituals. Visitors are encouraged to offer support and comfort, but there are cultural nuances to keep in mind:

• Dress modestly and conservatively
• Offer condolences with simple phrases like “May their memory be a blessing”
• Do not ask intrusive questions about the death or circumstances
• Participate in prayers or readings respectfully if invited
• Bring food or a small token of comfort rather than flowers

By following these guidelines, visitors can help honor the mourning process and provide genuine support to the family.

Honoring the Memory of the Deceased

Jewish mourning practices emphasize memory and legacy. Beyond immediate condolences, there are many ways to honor a loved one over time:

• Lighting a Yahrzeit candle on the anniversary of the death
• Participating in memorial services and synagogue prayers
• Visiting the grave and placing a stone in remembrance
• Supporting causes or charities that were important to the deceased

These practices not only preserve the memory of the departed but also provide comfort and a sense of connection for the family. By understanding these customs, friends and neighbors can align their gestures with Jewish traditions in a thoughtful way.

Conclusion

The term Tzedakah translates to “righteous giving” in Hebrew, highlighting the importance of compassion, generosity, and support in Judaism. These values extend naturally into the practice of comforting those in mourning. While flowers are typically inappropriate, gifts of food, care packages, charitable donations, and practical assistance are meaningful ways to support grieving Jewish families.

At Fox Memorials, we are proud to serve Long Island’s Jewish community by providing monuments and memorial services that honor both faith and legacy. Our decades of experience ensure that every family receives the highest quality service, preserving the memory of their loved one in a way that is respectful, beautiful, and enduring. By understanding and respecting Jewish mourning customs, you can offer support in a way that truly makes a difference during life’s most difficult moments.

Remember, the most valuable gift you can give a grieving family is your presence, compassion, and respect for their traditions. Whether through food, practical help, or charitable giving, your support helps families navigate their mourning with dignity, strength, and love.

A headstone should be a lasting testament to an individual’s life. With a beautiful headstone inscription, a description of their relationships to others, plus symbols, there is a lot that a headstone can say about a person. Ultimately, a headstone is a permanent, enduring tribute to the legacy of a loved one.

Reasons to Choose a Double Jewish Headstone

Financial Reasons

Unfortunately, funeral arrangements can be quite a financial burden for many families. This is especially true when the monument is not pre-planned. Purchasing a double Jewish headstone will help offset these costs for a more affordable headstone.

In terms of the headstone, it’s much cheaper to purchase one double headstone than it is to purchase two single headstones. The cost of materials is much cheaper. Additionally, a two plot grave is more reasonably priced than two separate single grave sites. Therefore, purchasing a double Jewish monument for your loved one is both a sound financial and spiritual decision.

Double Monuments are Larger

Similar to the convenience of visitation, double monuments are also larger. Basically, this means that they’re easier to identify in a group. They’re also more visually appealing. This is great for families who appreciate fine details in a headstone. A larger headstone enables families to honor their deceased relatives.

Relatives Can Be Buried at Different Times

It’s uncommon for two family members sharing a family monument to pass away at the same time. Instead, the ordering process normally takes place after the first individual passes away. The other half of the headstone is typically left blank.

After the second individual passes away, our craftsmen can inscribe the memorial symbols for the latter, whether it’s a spouse, parent, child or other relation. They can do this without ever removing the headstone. In fact, our staff can add new inscriptions while the headstone’s still in the ground.

 

Conclusion

At Fox Monuments, our goal is to help you give your family the honored burial they deserve. We strive to make this process as seamless and comforting for you during your time of grief.

At Fox Monuments, we have years of experience as a leading provider of Jewish monuments for Long Island. Providing guidance and support for the Jewish community in times of hardship has always been our highest priority. As Long Island’s most trusted provider of Jewish monuments, we hold Jewish tradition in high esteem.

The Jewish faith has rich historical significance. There are thousands of customs, practices and rituals that govern Jewish culture. Their practices regarding death and mourning are no different. The Meal of Consolation , Chevra Kadisha, and Shiva are just a few of the notable Jewish traditions passed down through generations of Jewish families.

Most of the customs we’ve discussed in previous posts concern how the bereaved family proceeds during and after the burial. However, according to the Talmud and Kabbalah, the time directly after death is a crucial transition period. The belief is that directly after a death, the deceased experiences as much hardship as their family.

In this post, we’ll discuss the Jewish customs practiced in the period directly after a death. Read on for more information.

 

The Transition

Jewish texts describe the period right after death as a challenging transition. Naturally, the family is devastated and doing their best to cope with their loss. However, the Talmud and Kabbalah states that the soul of the deceased is experiencing its own challenges.

The Jewish belief system states that the souls of their dead do not leave the world until after the burial. Disconnected from its former life and body, the soul is in a vulnerable state. This is why burials occur as quickly as possible. It is also believed that the presence and prayers of loved ones at the funeral is an enormous comfort to the soul.

Many of the grieving family members find comfort in their belief that the soul remains conscious and aware. It provides a consolation for them to view their loved one as going through a period of transition.

 

Decisions

Immediately following a passing, decisions must be made. This is not necessarily unique, as in all religions, the family must make arrangements.

Many common burial traditions violate Jewish custom, however. Jewish law forbids practices by modern morticians, as they are considered a violation of the body. They are viewed as disrespectful to the deceased.

The grieving families must take these restrictions into consideration when making decisions. In some cases, there are no official documents left by the departed with specific guidelines.

 

Rituals

Within the immediate moments after a death, holy rituals are conducted. A few primary factors are taken into consideration. Maintaining the dignity of the deceased is first and foremost. The body must return to the earth from which it came. The soul must receive guidance and strength throughout its spiritual journey.

Directly following the moment of death, those present recite the “True Judge” blessing, “Baruch Dayan Ha’emet.” This translates to “blessed be the true judge.” The complete version of this prayer is said during the funeral service, along with the Kaddish.

The eyes and mouth are then closed by whoever is present. A sheet is draped over the body to cover it. Many elect a child or close relative to perform this task. The body of the deceased is then placed on the floor. If death occurs in a hospital, this is most likely not possible. However, all of the other customs should be observed.

Candles are then lit and placed around the head of the body. If the body is lowered to the floor, those lowering the body should ask forgiveness of the departed. Once the candles are lit, Psalms 23, 90 and 91 are recited.

Once these Psalms have been recited, the funeral home and rabbi should be contacted. It’s important to inform the funeral home that a Taharah will be needed. Plan your memorial service accordingly.

 

The Vigil

According to the Jewish faith, the human body is a sacred vessel. The privacy, dignity and virtue of the body is under holy protection in Jewish tradition. After the passing, this body remains equally as deserving of reverence. Those near the deceased are expected to conduct themselves with grace and dignity in order to demonstrate the proper respect for the dead.

A shemira (honor guard) remains with the body as often as possible, if not constantly. Anyone keeping vigil over the body recites prayers or psalms to comfort to the soul of the departed.

 

Restrictions & Ritual

Autopsies, embalming, displays and cremation are considered a violation of the body.

The burial happens as soon as possible. Since Jewish custom forbids posthumous medical practices to preserve the body’s sanctity, the funeral must take place immediately.

 

Conclusion

Judaism is a faith rich with stories and tradition. The specific rituals following death have deep significance to the faithful. Like many of the other Jewish death traditions, it helps to bring closure and consolation to the family in mourning.

Fox Monuments works with Long Island’s Jewish community, providing them with memorials that are a tribute to their faith. We understand the importance of religion in healing from loss.

Hanukkah is, without a doubt, one of the most profound milestones within the Jewish faith. In simplest terms, it is an eight-day-and-night celebration of the tenacity of the Jewish spirit. Without a doubt, considering its supreme importance in Judaism, Hanukkah is, like Shiva, a quintessential opportunity to remember and celebrate those we’ve lost.

At Fox Monuments, we’ve helped Long Island’s Jewish community honor and celebrate their faith for decades. Traditions and practices regarding the end of life and lost loved ones is an incredibly significant (and complex) aspect of the Jewish faith. Therefore, part of our mission is to provide the kind of compassion, guidance and unforgettable service that pays both respect to lost loved ones and the appropriate reverence to faith.

In this post, we’ll explore five ways you can honor departed loved ones as you observe Hanukkah this year.

1. Storytelling Around the Lights

Once the menorah is lit, many families observe the tradition of singing songs, reading specific passages and reciting prayers. Mostly, the songs and prayers vary by family, as each have their own specific selections that they find most meaningful or appropriate. However, this is also an excellent opportunity to honor the memories of your lost loved ones.

If you’ve lost someone recently, this will be an even more impactful and emotional practice. Take a few minutes to share everyone’s collective memories of your loved one, and perhaps have others tell their favorite story about them. Even the simple act of acknowledging them, discussing, or just speaking their name out loud can be enormously significant.

Going around the room, give everyone present the opportunity to express gratitude for the ways the departed impacted their life. Hanukkah is the perfect time of year to firmly acknowledge that their enduring memories and legacy remain alive, as long as they live on in you.

2. Put Photos On Display

Of course, we take (and keep) photos so that our memories, and those we love, can live on long after we take them. Therefore, Hanukkah is the perfect time to put these pictures on display – not just to honor those you’ve lost, but to fondly remember Hanukkahs of the past.

Hanukkah is a time to revisit our collective history, celebrate our triumphs and remember our past. While Hanukkah is technically about revisiting our history on a collective scale, for all Jews, that doesn’t mean you can’t also acknowledge your personal memories, as well. Put a picture of those you’ve lost on prominent display, perhaps near the menorah. As a result, this will likely inspire whoever’s present to share specific memories and stories about them.

3. Prayers Following the Lighting

The spiritual teachings of Judaism enforce the idea that the moment a menorah candle flickers is a favorable time for prayer. One of these prayers can be a personal, heartfelt expression of our enduring love for whoever we’ve lost.

Of course, it’s very likely that you won’t be able to complete your prayers without sadness, and probably some tears. But that’s perfectly fine – it’s okay, likely even advisable, for you to have the cry you deserve. Feelings of loss, grief and sorrow are perfectly normal emotions. Also, expressing them is a healthy, typical, and necessary part of the process. Let your family and friends support you during this overwhelming moment.

In fact, mental health and grief experts tell us that experiencing the pain, rather than consistently trying to evade it, actually gives us advanced coping skills. Also, it helps us to feel better in the long-term.

4. Prepare Their Favorite Foods

There are fewer more resolute ways to honor a loved one (present or departed) than by preparing their favorite meals. Much like other Jewish holidays throughout the year, Hanukkah is a time to actualize our faith and gratitude with a festive, splendid meal. The Meal of Consolation isn’t the only meal that we may eat in memory of our departed loved ones.

Were there any specific recipes that your loved one was especially fond of?Was there anything they would often prepare themselves? What was their all-time favorite food? Contributing their favorite, or their signature, dish is a fantastic way to honor them. Also, this will allow you to share their memory with the friends and family present.

Conclusion – Fox Monuments

From our family at Fox Monuments, we wish you and your family the very safest, healthiest and happiest of Hanukkahs! This has been an especially challenging year for us all, and you and your loved ones deserve an exceptional holiday season to finish this year with a bit of celebration.

Hanukkah is a day about hope, and to remind us of our historical ability to triumph over adversity. Therefore, it’s important to keep the spirit of Hanukkah in mind as we conclude a particularly difficult year.v

Happy holidays from Fox Monuments!

When someone in your family dies, there are a lot of things to take care of. One of the most important is making sure that the home is ready for shiva. Shiva is a Jewish mourning ritual that lasts for seven days. During shiva, the family of the deceased gathers in their home to mourn and remember their loved one. There are many things you can do to prepare your home for shiva. In this blog post, we will discuss some of the most important things you need to know! We at Fox Monuments want to help you through this difficult time, and these tips will make the process a little easier.
 

When and Where is Shiva Held

In the Jewish tradition, the funeral is held as soon as possible. This practice helps the soul to move into a peaceful place early on and allows the family to process their grief.

Shiva is held immediately after the funeral, usually on the day of the burial. The mourners return to the home of the deceased, and shiva lasts for seven days. Shiva is the second stage of mourning.
 

How to Prepare the Shiva Home

There are many Shiva preparations that the family must make before starting the 7-day mourning period.

1. The family sits on cushions or low chairs. It is traditional to sit on low chairs or stools during shiva. This is because sitting low to the ground is a sign of humility and grief.
2. Cover all mirrors and pictures. During shiva, all mirrors and pictures in the house are covered. This is because Jewish tradition teaches that during shiva, we should not be concerned with our own appearance. We are focusing on mourning our loved one, and we do not want to be distracted by our own reflection.
3. Keep doors unlocked. During shiva, the doors to the house are kept unlocked. This is so that people can come and go as they please.
4. Burn memorial candles. Memorial candles are burned during shiva. These candles represent the soul of the person who died.
5. Set out food and drinks. Food and drinks are set out for visitors during shiva. This is so that visitors will have something to eat and drink while they are in the house.
6. Prepare handwashing stations. As family and friends enter, they are expected to wash their hands. Some families will set up a wash basin outside or just inside the front door. Others will allow mourners to go right into the bathroom or kitchen. This ritual cleanses their hands and prepares them to comfort those who have suffered a loss.

 

Customs for the Mourning Family

Depending on the family’s preferences, customs will vary. Families will choose which of the mourning customs they are most comfortable with. Typically, the older generations will follow these customs more closely.

Excusal from Work

Throughout Shiva, the family is excused from work and household duties. Meals are prepared by friends or relatives. It is customary for the Shiva house to be left tidy each night so that the mourners can return to a clean space after their day of reflection.

Wear Torn Clothing

The bereaved wear torn clothing as a sign of grief. The clothes do not have to be ripped, but many people will wear an article of clothing that is torn or cut. This is usually done on the day of the funeral.

Stay within the Home

Mourners are not supposed to leave the house during shiva, except for necessary errands like buying food.

Grooming and Dress

Traditionally, mourners do not shave, cut their hair, or wear leather shoes during shiva. This is done as a way of showing respect for the deceased.

Exemptions

Children under the age of thirteen are exempt from shiva. They are considered too young to fully understand death. Pregnant women are also exempt because it is considered bad luck to mourn while you are carrying new life.
 

The Meal of Consolation

Also known as the meal of condolence, the meal of consolation follows the family’s return from the cemetery. It is an opportunity for friends and neighbors to provide support and express their condolences.

The food is brought in by friends or neighbors and left in the kitchen. The family does not have to prepare the meal themselves.

The Meal of Consolation marks the beginning of Shiva. It is intended to help the family recover from stress.
 

Conclusion

The death of a loved one is a difficult time. Following the Jewish tradition of Shiva can help to bring some structure and order during this chaotic time. By preparing your home and yourself, you can create a space for grief and support.

The Shiva is central to the Jewish burial traditions. Serving as the first of several stages of mourning, the Shiva helps family members to stand together while grieving. Long before unveiling the cemetery monument, the Shiva offers families an opportunity to gather and console each other. Read on to learn more about the Shiva service, and the customs surrounding it.

What is Shiva?

The Shiva is a very significant part of the grieving process for Jewish people. After a Jewish person passes away, the family is responsible for burying the individual as quickly as possible. Then, it’s traditional for extended family members, friends, and members of the community to gather and pay their respects during the shiva.

The shiva is generally held in the home of the deceased, or a family member. To demonstrate a state of mourning, those attending wear either torn clothing or a black ribbon to denote mourning status. They are also expected to bring food, as a way of providing sustenance for those in mourning. Like selecting Long Island Jewish Monuments, paying attention to the shiva process is critical.

Traditionally, there is an expectation for family in mourning to refrain from pleasurable activities. This includes watching television, listening to music, and other forms of entertainment.

As indicated by Jewish customs, the shiva should last seven days. In fact, shiva means seven in Hebrew. However, in modern times, some families shorten this period of mourning. Throughout each day, families and those attending say the Mourner’s Kaddish.

 

The Shiva Home

To prepare for the Shiva, the family will prepare the home in a certain way. Over time, Jewish people in different regions have developed varying practices. Generally, though, the underlying principles surrounding these practices has remained the same. Like the principles behind selecting a Long Island Jewish monument, Jewish people take great care in preparing a Shiva home.

In the Ashkenazi tradition, mourners must sit on low stools. This is notably different from the Sephardic practices, in which mourners sit on either the floor or pillows. Both of these practices symbolize that the mourners are in low spirits, due to their recent loss.

Additionally, mourners are likely to cover all mirrors in the home. The reason for this is twofold. First, covering mirrors discourages vanity, creating an environment that allows for introspection and reflection. Secondly, and more traditionally, covering mirrors prevents the spirit of the deceased from becoming trapped. Regardless of the interpretation, covering the mirrors is an important element of the shiva home.

As a way of allowing mourners to continue grieving undisturbed, the family typically leaves the doors unlocked.

A fairly recent tradition adopted from Christian customs, some families have a condolence book intended to give families the opportunity to thank mourners.

The family also generally lights a Yahrzeit Candle in the home. This creates the proper atmosphere for grieving, without using any electrical lighting.

Finally, mourners should remove their shoes, as a way of demonstrating grief.

 

The Origin of Shiva

The Torah mentions the idea behind a period of mourning several times.

During the early periods of Judaism, mourners noticed that feasting in joy was inappropriate during a time of grief. Instead, they viewed this time as an opportunity to express, process and overcome their grief.

Later on, Moses solidified this practice as a formal custom. The progression of this custom is fairly similar to that of the Long Island Jewish monuments. In the beginning, the unveiling tradition existed because it took time to create the monument. Now, this principle exists as a manner of tradition, deeply embedded within Jewish culture.

 

How Long Does the Shiva Last?

In accordance with these customs, the shiva lasts for seven days. However, this does not include the Shabbat, or major Jewish holidays. Beyond the grieving period, these seven days also establish the idea that mourning should be taken as seriously as feasting, which also lasts for seven days. In fact, the Shiva ends long before the unveiling of the Long Island Jewish monuments.

After this period ends, the family customarily leaves the home. This symbolizes “rising from the Shiva”, or moving on in the grieving process.

Following the Shiva, the next step in the grieving process is the Shloshim, in which the family re-enters the world. In some circles, though, family members are not permitted to engage in leisurely activities.

 

Long Island Jewish Monuments from Fox Monuments

At Fox Monuments, we understand the state of grief that mourners are in after the death of a loved one. Being familiar with Jewish customs, we do our best to accommodate all of our customers. To purchase well-crafted Long Island Jewish monuments that are right for your family members, contact us.

When someone in the Jewish community dies, it is important to mark their passing with a headstone. This is known as a Matzeivah in Hebrew. A Matzeivah can be simple or ornate, depending on the person’s life and death. At Fox Monuments, we specialize in creating Jewish headstones and etching inscriptions onto them. We provide monument inscription services all across New York.

What is the Origin of the Matzeivah?

The origins of the Matzeivah date back to biblical times. In the book of Genesis, we read about how Jacob erected a stone pillar at Bethel after he had a vision from God (Genesis 28:18). This stone pillar later became known as Jacob’s Pillar or the Stone of Vision.

“And Rachel died and was buried on the way to Ephrath, which is Bethlehem. And Jacob erected a tombstone on Rachel’s grave” (Genesis 35:19-20)

Today, Jewish headstones are still made out of stone, and they often have inscriptions with the person’s name, birth date, and death date. Sometimes there will also be a quote or bible verse etched onto the headstone. The tradition of erecting a Matzeivah is deeply symbolic—it serves as both a spiritual and cultural act of remembrance, continuing a sacred practice that has lasted thousands of years.

Why is Matzeivah Important?

Matzeivahs are important because they help us remember our loved ones who have passed away. By having a physical headstone to visit, we can feel closer to them, even though they are no longer with us.

Whether you choose a monument that covers the grave, is a headstone, or a footstone, it serves two main purposes: to remember and to honor. A monument is a physical embodiment of love that will last long after we are gone. It is a way for future generations to know who we were, what we did, and how much we loved them. In Jewish tradition, the Matzeivah represents the permanence of memory and the continuation of the soul’s legacy through generations.

Inscription and Style of the Matzeivah

Writing a monument inscription is a way to honor your loved one and keep their memory alive. Choose your words carefully and etch them into the stone with love. Many families also include personal or scriptural messages such as “Beloved Father, Mother, and Friend” or “May His Soul Be Bound in the Bond of Eternal Life.” Each inscription tells a story and keeps a cherished legacy alive for future generations.

Traditional Jewish Symbols Found on Matzeivahs

Jewish headstones often incorporate sacred symbols that reflect faith, heritage, and the individual’s life. These engravings are more than decoration—they are spiritual markers that connect the deceased to their religious and familial identity.

• Star of David (Magen David): A symbol of Jewish identity and unity, often featured prominently on the headstone.
• Candle or Menorah: Represents the soul and the light it brought into the world. Common on women’s graves, as women traditionally light Shabbat candles.
• Hands in a Priestly Blessing: Found on the graves of Kohanim, descendants of the ancient priestly class.
• Pitcher: Commonly seen on the graves of Levites, symbolizing their temple role of washing the hands of the priests.
• Tree or Branch: A symbol of life and continuity; a broken branch can represent a life cut short.

These symbols serve as a visual representation of faith, family lineage, and personal values, creating a meaningful connection between generations.

Choosing the Right Material for a Matzeivah

The choice of stone plays a major role in the appearance and longevity of a Matzeivah. Traditionally, granite and marble are the most common materials used due to their durability and beauty. Granite, in particular, is favored for its strength, color variety, and resistance to weathering. It ensures the inscription remains legible for centuries.

Fox Monuments offers a range of materials including Barre Gray, Jet Black, and Mahogany granite. Each provides a unique look and feel while maintaining the dignity and permanence appropriate for a Jewish memorial. Our team helps families choose a stone that best reflects their loved one’s legacy and aligns with the cemetery’s guidelines.

Single vs. Double Jewish Headstones

Jewish monuments can be designed as single or double headstones, depending on the family’s wishes. A single headstone marks one individual’s grave, while a double headstone (also called a companion monument) honors two people—often spouses—side by side. Both styles can be crafted with inscriptions in Hebrew and English and incorporate shared symbols or quotes.

Double headstones are especially meaningful because they represent unity and eternal companionship, continuing the bond between loved ones even after death. Fox Monuments carefully designs these stones to balance beauty, proportion, and emotional significance.

When to Place the Matzeivah

While many assume that the Matzeivah must be placed exactly 12 months after death, this isn’t always true. In reality, it is usually placed immediately after shiva. Fox Monuments will put the headstone in place, and then the unveiling ceremony will be held after the Kaddish period—typically around a year following death.

The unveiling ceremony is a formal dedication of the Matzeivah. The rabbi will remove a veil, cloth, or handkerchief draped over the stone. The service has many elements, including the Kaddish. Additionally, the rabbi will suggest placing pebbles on the monument as a gesture of respect and remembrance. Each small act reinforces the enduring connection between the living and the departed.

How Fox Monuments Helps Families Create Matzeivahs

Creating a Matzeivah is both an emotional and spiritual process. At Fox Monuments, we understand the significance of every detail—from stone selection to engraving style. Our team works closely with families to design memorials that reflect the individuality, faith, and legacy of their loved ones. We guide you through every step, ensuring the finished monument is both beautiful and respectful of Jewish customs.

Whether you are creating a new monument or adding an inscription to an existing one, our craftsmen handle each project with precision and compassion. We have served the Jewish community across Long Island and New York for generations, helping families honor their loved ones in a way that feels meaningful and true.

Conclusion

Matzeivah is the name that the Torah uses for a cemetery monument. It serves as an important symbol of honor. The headstone is placed as a reminder of the person’s life and their connection to the Jewish people. As such an important aspect of the mourning process, it is essential to choose a Jewish monument company you can trust. Fox Monuments has decades of experience helping families create beautiful Matzeivahs. Give us a call today to get started.

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Frequently Asked Questions About Matzeivahs

What does the word “Matzeivah” mean?

“Matzeivah” comes from the Hebrew root meaning “to set up” or “to establish.” It refers to the headstone or monument erected to honor and remember a deceased loved one.

Do all Jewish graves have a Matzeivah?

Yes, it is customary in Jewish tradition to mark the grave with a Matzeivah. The design and size may vary, but the purpose—to honor and memorialize the deceased—remains the same.

Can a Matzeivah include both Hebrew and English text?

Absolutely. Many families choose to include both languages on the headstone. Hebrew inscriptions often contain religious phrases or blessings, while English inscriptions provide names and dates for broader understanding.

What should be written on a Jewish headstone?

Typically, a Jewish headstone includes the person’s Hebrew and English names, dates of birth and death, and a brief inscription or prayer. It may also include traditional abbreviations such as “תנצב״ה” (an acronym meaning “May his/her soul be bound in the bond of eternal life”).

How long does it take to make and install a Matzeivah?

The process can take several weeks, depending on the stone selection, engraving details, and cemetery requirements. Fox Monuments ensures every Matzeivah is crafted with the highest quality and care, keeping families informed throughout the process.

In the Jewish tradition, it’s customary to make arrangements for a loved one’s funeral and burial immediately following death. This can be an emotionally distressing time, between contacting family members, friends, all while coping with your loss. And, while pre-planning your Jewish monument is the ideal route, this is not always a financial or logistical possibility. Ordering a Jewish monument that will serve as a final representation of your loved one’s time in life is imperative. In this blog post, we’ll describe the various steps involved in designing this monument.

 

 

2. Explore the Various Types of Jewish Headstones

There are multiple different styles of headstones, and depending on the regulations of the cemetery you selected, you may be able to use one or more.

• Upright Jewish Monuments: The most common style of headstone, the upright monument is what tends to come to mind when people think of a headstone. This Jewish monument style is available in several materials. While somewhat of a standard, upright Jewish monuments may also be considered too large for some cemeteries.
• Slant Monuments: Slant monuments are a proportionately smaller version of upright monuments. They still stand upright, but do not leave the same amount of room for text as upright monuments. And, while you can include some text, it may not be as large as it would be on a larger monument.
• Footmarkers: Rather than being raised above the ground, foot markers are placed directly in the ground, with the text of the monument facing the sky. As the smallest type of Jewish monument, foot markers are the only monument permitted in some cemeteries without ample space. So, for families looking to bury their loved one in a cemetery with space regulations, this can be the ideal choice. Foot markers are also the most affordable Jewish monument option.
• Benches: While it may not be a direct replacement for a Jewish monument, memorial benches are a meaningful way to remember a loved one. When placed in or around your home, it can serve as a friendly reminder of the individual.
• Mausoleums: This expensive burial option is not as common now as it once was, but is a very honorable way to remember your loved ones.

 

3. Determine Your Budget

Unfortunately, the ideal Jewish monument may lie outside of your budget. After investigating price points and cemetery space availability, you’ll need to consider the financial aspect of this process. These are some of the costs that you should take into account:

• Burial plot
• Cost of memorial
• Funeral
• Headstone personalization

When corresponding with a Jewish headstone company, feel free to mention your budget. Once they have this number in mind, the salespeople can guide you toward a solution that fits this price range.

 

4. Select a Jewish Headstone Supplier

Next, you should select a company to purchase the Jewish headstone from. This is an important decision, as the quality of the headstone can vary based on the supplier. Before making this decision, be sure to review the quality of their previous work. The right Jewish headstone supplier will have examples, reviews, and be eager to make a positive impression.

 

5. Decide Which Material Your Loved One’s Headstone Should Be

 

6. Jewish Headstone Finish

In addition to selecting the material, another aesthetic choice is deciding which finish the headstone should be. Most Jewish monument companies offer several different finishes. And, the finish of the headstone may also have an impact on its long-term durability.

 

7. Choosing an Epitaph for the Jewish Headstone

The epitaph of the Jewish headstone can truly capture the essence of the deceased individual. It should serve to describe the individual in a positive light, and convey their best attributes or accomplishments.

The source of an epitaph can vary. For some individuals, it may make sense to find a quote from the Torah that is fitting. For others, a literary quote may be a fitting addition. Song lyrics may also be a fitting choice. Regardless, be sure that the Jewish headstone epitaph describes the deceased individual well.

 

 

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At Fox Memorials, we understand that ordering a monument is stressful. Over the years, our staff have helped many people to make sense of these options and create the ideal monument. We can guide you through this process and ensure that you have all of the information you need at each step.